Growing pains. We don’t call them that for nothing because the reality is that even when changes happen that are for our greater good, it still means having to adjust from one way of life to something else. Even for us as adults, that can sometimes be challenging.

So, just imagine how much more difficult it can be for our kids when it comes to making a decision such as relocating. Yet, there are things that you can do to bring about an easier transition and a more peaceful sense of calm for your children. Here’s how:

Have a conversation with them. By this, we don’t mean taking on the approach of “We’re moving…because I said so!” No, what we are saying is that it’s a good idea to take your kids out to someplace special or to cook them their favorite meal (so that they’ll feel more at ease) and then share with them, on a level that they can understand, the changes that are to come and why you think it’s a good idea. Even for them.

Be open to hearing what they have to say. If they are old enough to where they were used to a certain routine, there’s a huge possibility that they are not going to be thrilled about the move, at least initially. And honestly, that’s OK. Don’t take it personally if they cry or show emotions that reflect anger or confusion. Allow them their space to (respectfully) express themselves. Grieving change is a part of life and of growing up.
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